The Love Connection: Season 2 Show Notes

Join us as we pull back the curtain on biased institutional narratives about Family, Friend, and Neighbor (FFN) care to tell the stories of providers and the parents who rely on them.

This project was made possible with support from First5LA. You can follow the Network on Facebook, Twitter and Youtube at CARRNetwork to stay up-to-date on child care news in California. To learn more about why we started this FFN bias project and what's next, visit rrnetwork.org.

Produced by Stephanie Serrano, hosted by Menaka Mahajan and Natalie Rivera with support from Lily Stewart, Terah Hagy, Sarah Conway, Stephany Delaney, Linda Asato, Gemma DiMatteo, Keisha Nzewi, the R&R Network and staff.

A special thanks to the parents and providers who shared their stories. We see you and appreciate you.

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Episode 1: "What is the Essence of Quality Child Care?" (Carolina)

Released: September 10, 2024

Carolina's heart warming story explores how Family, Friend, and Neighbor (FFN) care goes beyond formal education and is filled with values of trust, love, and shared cultural experiences that are vital for many families, especially for communities of color. We get a look inside her own experience and how her grandmother has been an essential caregiver, providing a cultural connection, safety, and a foundation of faith for multiple generations. Carolina emphasizes the crucial role FFN providers have in raising children and the need for society to truly honor their contributions through meaningful support and policy change.

  • Family, Friend, and Neighbor (FFN) care is a type of child care that the state does not require to be licensed, sometimes called "license-exempt" or “unlicensed” child care. It is provided in a home by a family member, friend, or a neighbor. Click here to learn more about which kinds of child care need to be licensed.

  • Trustline is a state-wide registry that provides background screenings for license exempt and in-home child care providers (nannies and babysitters), as well as professional supervised visitation monitors, child care staff, etc.

  • Learn more about Erik Erikson’s theory of psychological development, which emphasizes the importance of trust between a caregiver and child.

  • According to the Center on the Developing Child at Harvard, the development of a child’s brain architecture is the foundation for all future learning, behavior, and health outcomes.

  • What is home-based child care and why is it so valuable?

  • A new Surgeon General study explores the effects of parental stress on young children.

  • Early Edge California’s policy brief (see pg 4.) highlights the stark differences between licensed and unlicensed provider pay.

Episode 2: "Embracing Black Culture" (Tonia)

Released September 17, 2024

Tonia is a proud Louisiana native living in Compton, California and has been in the child care field for nearly three decades. She raised her two sons as a single mother and is now a grandmother. Tonia shares her experience as a Family, Friend, and Neighbor (FFN) care provider for her grandchildren, and how she weaves in her rich African American culture and history into their daily lives. She discusses the importance of teaching her grandchildren to embrace their Black identity especially amid current social and political challenges. She also advocates for greater recognition, support, and fair compensation for FFN caregivers.

Episode 3: Unmatched Communication (Emily)

Released September 24, 2024

When Emily finds herself with a gap in child care, an unexpected person comes to the rescue. Her next-door neighbor, a former preschool teacher. Miss Jessica steps up to provide Family, Friend, and Neighbor (FFN) care, creating a nurturing and engaging environment for Emily's infant daughter. Emily reflects on how their close connection, trust, and communication made the transition back to work easier. She also encourages other parents to seek support from those within their circle.

  • Communication between FFNs and parents enables them to build positive relationships. Healthy relationships enable caregivers to provide the best care possible for children. Here are 3 things providers can do when communicating with parents.

  • It is natural and healthy for new parents to feel anxious. Anxiety that helps us do what we need to do is good for us. But anxiety that gets on top of us and shuts us down is not. It often seems daunting to find trusted child care. For additional assistance locating child care, visit your local child care Resource & Referral agency.

  • Activities for caregivers to enjoy with babies that build brains and executive function skills.

  • There are 5 “Rs” for family engagement—Respect, Responsiveness & Reassurance, Relationship, Reciprocity, and Reflection—which help caregivers build trust and promote positive communication with parents.

  • Children are unique, and helping them manage their responses to sensory overload is specific to each child. Here are some tips for helping children with overstimulation.

  • Encourage your baby by narrating what you do and what they do. Interacting with children can help build relationships and foster language development; here is a 3½ minute video (available in English and Spanish) with examples of the everyday ways families talk, sing, and play together.

Episode 4: A Miraculous Lineage of Love (Lisa and Eric)

Released October 1, 2024

They say it takes a village to raise children. In this episode, Lisa and Eric tag team child care by providing Family, Friend, and Neighbor (FFN) care to support their family in Hyampom California, their home in the wilderness. Lisa and Eric care for three boys, Lisa is the boy's grandmother and Eric is the boy's uncle. Together, they expose the boys to gardening, bike riding, and baking. For Eric, it's important that he shows up as a father figure in order to leave a lasting impact on the boys self-worth and future. Both Lisa and Eric agree that child care is an under-appreciated but essential job.

Episode 5: Todas las Etapas son Bonitas (Sofia)

Released October 8, 2024

In this episode we meet Sofia, someone who has provided child care in Los Angeles for over 13 years. She has a history of taking care of infants who she has seen grow into young teens. Her commitment as a Family, Friend, and Neighbor (FFN) care provider demonstrates how her loving long-term emotional and physical care shows up in the children’s well-being for years to come. Sofia’s first language is Spanish and she often finds herself teaching the kids the language. She also discusses how despite the hard work, child care workers are often underpaid, although she knows the families love and appreciate her.

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Episode 6: My Home is Your Home (Kryston)

Released October 15, 2024

Kryston once dreamed of having a big family with lots of children, but that dream was no longer in reach after facing health challenges that prevented her from having more than one child. Kryston shares her journey on how becoming a Family, Friend, and Neighbor (FFN) care provider for five children has helped her heal and allowed her to gain bonus children along the way. She highlights that while FFN care creates rich bonds between caregivers, children, and their families, the work is often misunderstood and under-appreciated.

  • Connections between children and their caregivers are important. When they are healthy, these bonds help developing children feel secure. This special early bond is called attachment.
  • Continuity in care for young children is valuable. This flyer outlines how building a positive relationship between a caregiver and a young child fosters healthy social and emotional development.
  • This paper explores children’s understanding of “home” and “belonging,” observing how safety and comfort are essential in children’s sense of feeling “at home.”

  • Read about the importance of elevating high-quality FFN care to support children’s development and increase equity in early childhood education outcomes.

  • Learn how FFN caregivers offer more flexibility to families who work non-traditional schedules.

  • Who are FFNs and nannies in California, and what do their arrangements with families look like?

  • Read this heartwarming blog: A Love Letter to FFN Caregivers.

  • Learn about different strategies for supporting Family, Friend, and Neighbor caregivers.

Episode 7: New Beginnings (Joiandrea)

Released October 22, 2024

Joiandrea, a wife and mother of five, takes us through her journey of finding child care after moving to a rural area. After her children experienced a frightening and aggressive child care incident, Joiandrea found a safe space with a local Family, Friend, and Neighbor (FFN) care provider, whose loving care gave her peace of mind as she pursued her education and career goals. Joiandrea reflects on the invaluable support from her child care provider and a bittersweet goodbye to a friend turned family.

Episode 8: It’s More Than Changing Diapers (Angelica)

Released October 29, 2024

Angelica is a Napa resident who worked in the food industry for several years before finding her true calling in early childhood development. She reflects on how becoming a mother inspired her to switch careers and become a Family, Friend, and Neighbor (FFN) care provider for a family of two. She pulls back the curtain on how child care is not just “changing diapers” as some might assume. Angelica truly believes that in this field, you must do it “with all your heart,” and that is exactly what she does.

Episode 9: My Small Village (Hailey)

Released November 5, 2024

In this episode we meet Hailey, a single mother, part-time waitress, and artist who also earned two associate degrees while navigating the complexities of parenthood. How does she balance it all? When the school bell rings and daycare doors close, she leans on her small but mighty village for support.